Here are some of the lovely photos that were taking at my shower in the Kentucky by Andria Jackson. The games, the food, the decor, and the fellowship with family and friends was absolute perfection! You can check out Andria’s other work on her Facebook page! Check out my vlog of the Kentucky Baby Shower Experience!
So now that I am 20 weeks pregnant, when people see me they can obviously see that I am with child. If someone asks if or when I am expecting I proudly say, yes I am expecting twin boys sometime in either February or March. While I completely understand the excitement behind meeting someone having twins, I don’t understand some of the statements that follow…
- Are the twins natural? To me, this is like asking, “So what position did you and your husband have sex when you conceived?” How I got these babies in my body is no one’s business but mine, my husband’s, and my OB/GYN. To ask me if I used some form of help with conceiving is assuming that my body couldn’t do this on its own. While I cast no judgement on women who do need some assistance with getting pregnant, why can’t people assume I am healthy and have a plethora of eggs. It just seems like such a private question to ask and if we are really that close of friends that you feel comfortable asking me, then you would already know the answer. I know people don’t mean any harm by the question but damn. Even the use of the word “natural” put such a negative spin on woman who have to use the help of doctors to conceive. Are their twins “artificial”?
- You’re are gonna get REALLY BIG. Well so will your eye and your lip if I punch you in it for being so rude. I am fully aware that my stomach will probably be larger than it was with my first son, even though I’m in way better shape this pregnancy. However, I do not need the reminder. If I blow up like a float in the Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade, lets just wait until it happens before making any predictions. Now don’t get me wrong I am so proud of my bump! But sometimes I just want to put a bump on people’s head when they feel free to comment on my upcoming girth.
- So you’re definitely going to have a C-Section. So should I assume you apparently have a medical degree with an emphasis in multiple births?? LOL. I have never been pro c-section because I prefer not to have my abdominal muscles cut open. However, if there was a medical emergency and I had to have c-section, I guess I wouldn’t have a choice. Twins can be born vaginal and many of them are. So instead of putting your energy on assuming I will have to undergo major surgery, let just wait and see what will happen.
- Twins! That’s gonna be really hard. Thank you Captain Obvious for that beautiful revelation. Raising twins will be difficult but not as difficult as it has been for me to hold my tongue and not start cussing people out.
Again, I know people don’t mean to come off nosy, insulting, or all-knowing but they are. LOL. I know I’m not the only pregnant woman that has the hear the multiple comments and questions that might make you tear up or strangle people on site. Hell, I probably have said a few annoying things myself to pregnant friends while not really thinking fully about the potential impact of my words. However, it seems like with this pregnancy I must have on a shirt that reads, do you have a ridiculous question or comment about being pregnant with twins? ASK THIS LADY. But even with all the not so good comments, I am so appreciative of this one word that I get more often than not and that’s “CONGRATULATIONS!” It is like music to this big pregnant lady’s ears.
We are expecting TWINS next year!! OMG I can not believe this at all. There is so much to tell you but I am not going to try and do that in all one post on this blog. Yes, my husband and I changed our minds and decided to add one more child to our family. And no, we weren’t planning or trying to get pregnant with twins. This is just God’s little way of showing me that no matter how many “To Do Lists” I create, He is “To Do List” is the only one that matters. I am currently 13 weeks pregnant but I have been recording pregnancy vlogs almost the entire time I have been pregnant. So even though you might be joining me 1/3 of the way through this journey, I will posting all the videos I have recorded during my pregnancy in the weeks coming. You will get to see my friends and family’s reaction to finding out that I am pregnant with twins, including my husband and my son. These reactions are HILARIOUS. You will even get to see the ultrasound and hear MY REACTION to finding out instead of one baby I am having TWO! So sit back and watch this crazy UNEXPECTED story unfold. But make sure you follow this blog so that you can get update on the things I don’t have time to put up on my YouTube Channel, That Chick Angel TV. Also make sure you check out how I announced it to the ladies at The Mom’s View and how I announced it on my channel!